I hope that I am coming to you a little wiser today. I wanted to share some truths that I have recently discovered that I believe to be essential to finding happiness.
Truth #1 life isn’t about being happy
As a child, I truly believed that life was supposed to be good, at all times. Now as an adult I realize life is full of hardships. The tough times suck, but the tough times are what make us! The hardships provide opportunities for relationships to flourish and for personal growth. I know when we are in the tough times we want out, we want to escape, we wish this wasn’t us or our family or our realists. But later, we look back and see that most of the tough times in life are the defining moments. The hardships make us into who we become and who we are meant to be. Enjoy the good times but know that hardship will come to you, embrace both equally.
Truth #2 You are not in control
We spend so much time making things exactly as we picture them in our minds and when we fall short then we think we have “failed”. It is impossible to be in control of every aspect of your life. You can’t control if some jerk tailgates you on the freeway, but you can control your response. We can’t control the weather, other people or situations but we always have the power to control how we respond. We desperately want to feel like we are in control at all times and the brief moments we aren’t, we typically fly off the handle. I’ve also learned this to be true about relationships. We can’t control someone else’s actions or the things they do or don’t do. This is a tough one for me. Stop trying to fight it, don’t try to “fix it” or expect people to think, act, or respond the same as you. Putting ourselves into someone else’s shoes and being open to new perspectives and opinions are vital. Accept that every single day, at some point, you will not be in control.
Truth #3 The power of positivity is real
This one is simple. We get so caught up in the day to day life that we forget to share a smile, to encourage someone, to compliment someone or to just pour our hearts into whatever it is we are doing. Positivity is a frame of mind and a state of being. But sometimes it is so hard to be positive… when the kids are fussing, or your boss asks you to stay late or when you step in a piece of gum walking to your car… how can you possibly be positive? Well it takes practice, sincere earnest practice. Positivity requires being intentional in WHATEVER it is you’re doing (yoga, taking your dog for a walk, working in your garden) if we approach each new experience with an open and intentional attitude, the return is sooo worth the investment!
Truth #4 You are enough
You, yes you who is reading this.
Give yourself some credit. Stop and reflect on the accomplishments that you have tackled. Be proud of them. There is always something we want to work on or wished we did better, work on them. But at the end of the day, our time here is s h o r t… so stop wasting so much time hating on yourself. Believe in yourself, love yourself and know that today, wherever you are in life, you are enough.
Ill leave you with this :
this biggest regrets in life are risks we didn’t take